Muhammad Muhsin Ibrahim
@muhsin234
I was passing a group of students in our department, drying my face with a handkerchief after performing my ablution for namaz (i.e., prayers/salat), when a girl approached me and said she would like to pray with me that day. I thought she was just joking, so I went by without paying attention, saying she was welcome. I was about to start when she came running. It took me many minutes to convince her that she couldn’t (and shouldn’t) follow me. Disappointed, she gave up. I trembled, internally, through the prayers’ session for the fear of what might have happened had I given in to her ‘request’ and we were seen afterwards. It would have been suspected as what’s commonly called “Love Jihad”.
Forgive the detour: I am happily married to a dutiful and, of course, beautiful wife. We have been together here in Jalandhar , India,
‘Love Jihad’ is an oxymoronic term used chiefly in India and scarcely in the UK to refer to an alleged ploy by Muslim boys to convert girls of other faiths. The boys purportedly pretend to love their targets but, in reality, conspire only to convert them to Islam after, or as a prerequisite to, marriage. The perpetrators, according to their accusers, get monetary support and reward from their so-called sponsors. Many marriages are dissolved due to this indictment, and the persons involved are beaten, imprisoned or even killed.
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| A protest march against ‘Love Jihad’ |
Marriage in Islam is a legal contract between a man and a woman. While Muslim women can be married to Muslim men only, Muslim men are permitted to marry “People of the Book”, who include Christians and Jews. Marriage to other faithful (besides these two) is prohibited, or, at best, very much contested. Polytheism is often cited as one of the reasons. In Hinduism, for instance, there are 330 million gods!
Prominent Bollywood Muslim actors like Shah Rukh Khan, Aamir Khan and Saif Ali Khan are, however, married to Hindu women. Despite their ‘de-tribalism’, though decried by some Muslims, interfaith marriage is still a divisive subject that’s frequently (mis)used by many fraudulent, pseudo-religious politicians for cheap political gains in their constituencies.
According to my numerous unbiased and reliable sources and findings, ‘Love Jihad’ is simply a myth and malice popularised primarily by some Hindu right-wing groups with direct complicity of the Hindu-nationalist-led government. The government has, however, yet to find any evidence of the supposed scheme. Therefore, Muslim groups unreservedly condemn the allegation and call it a move to undermine Islam. They further mention that Muslims also convert to other religions. But this actually rarely happens compared with the conversion to Islam. Be it as it may, the campaign is a woeful, awful war on romance, freedom and choice of being. In most, if not all, cases, the love happens without any plan, much less an ulterior motive. I am a witness to a particular case.
A Muslim boy from Kashmir and a Hindu girl from Calcutta are deeply in love in my friend’s class. As a married couple, we often chat, and I encourage them and wish them well. I am 100% sure that the Kashmiri guy does just love her, for religion means little or nothing to him. I said this because my friend and I have repeatedly urged him and his friends to pray with us, but they always say no and offer the clumsiest excuses. He, in particular, never attends even the Friday Jumu’ah prayers, for they coincide with a lunch break, a period he spends with his heartthrob. How come you tell me that if in the end they marry and she converts, that this fellow’s aim was to convert her to Islam, while he too needs to ‘revert’ to the faith? There are numberless similar stories.
Love is a feeling that doesn’t easily succumb to pressure or barriers. It not only trespasses on the boundary every so often, but it also demolishes it and conquers all as well. I think it is dim-witted and impractical for some persons to try to stop love from thriving amongst the dwellers of the same community who speak the same language, dress the same way and so on. Choice of who to worship does not make anyone less Indian, less human and therefore unworthy of being loved. On many accounts, ‘Love Jihad’ ‘victims’ deny any persuasion to change their religion.
The rise of ‘Love Jihad’ can be traced, among others, to how girlhood/womanhood is treasured the least in India . So many horrible stories are often heard of girls being murdered (infanticide and feticide); attacked with poison, raped; intended mothers getting slain for carrying a baby girl, etc. In other cases, fathers commit suicide for failing to raise a ‘decent’ or a required dowry (sadaki/daheej) for their daughters. India is infamously called “A Dangerous Place to be a Woman”. Therefore, irrespective of faith and sometimes even race, the girls, in most instances, readily accept whoever seems to have a serious interest in them, respects their being and offers to marry them.
As per my encounter with that girl, I have no ounce of intention to love any girl, let alone marry her. It’s a personal reason, not because it’s unattainable or costly. Africans (and Blacks!) have married Indian girls. I am sure some friends around know my ‘relationship’ with her is a normal one, I must nonetheless decline her request to join me in the prayers, for that could easily be misperceived by many others. Only Allah knows the repercussions that may trigger. I always believe in the maxim that says “better safe than sorry”.
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