(154): Hadiza Gabon, Rakiya Moussa and the rest of us
By Muhsin Ibrahim
Hadiza Gabon is in the spotlight today. I find most of the criticisms of this Gabon's Room Talk Show amusing for three reasons. Just that you know, Rakiya Moussa, as a guest, emotionally shed tears when talking about her unrequited love experience. Some 'critics' blamed the presenter, Hadiza, for that.
1. Some of these critics don't know better about journalism ethics than Hadiza because they aren't journalists and have little or nothing to do with the profession. We just love bashing Kannywood people. They don't know how to do anything!
2. Talk shows like that don't have cut-and-dried rules. Gabon is a big fan of Ellen DeGeneres and her popular show. You don't have to be a journalist to host a programme like this. It's almost the same pattern globally.
3. The Internet has radically de-regularised journalism and changed entertainment industries and cultural production. Thus, even if there were rules guiding talk shows like Gabon's, she is free to violate them. Today's major concern is what sells better.
Why are we talking about this particular episode with Rakiya? Sensationalism, controversy, vulgarity, nudity, etc., attract our attention more than anything positive. I wrote about this issue before (see: https://bit.ly/40zzyjJ).
|Rakiya Moussa (left) and Hadiza Gabon (right)|
I sympathise with Rakiya. Her love story is not unique, however. There are way more weird stories out there. I recommend reading Stephen Grosz's The Examined Life: How We Lose and Find Ourselves. Still, I am glad she is – or seems to be – strong not to contemplate taking her life as others in her condition do.
Is Rakiya blameworthy?
You must not have a reason for loving someone. It's also very, very hard to stop loving someone. You can often only fight your heart to stop longing for that person or give up on ever having that person as your spouse – or partner. In sum, love can be hurtful.
You should not blame Rakiya for being in unrequited love. As it's said, our heart is boneless; thus, we cannot bend it the way we want.
For some reason or out of the blue, we sometimes wish someone were our spouse. But, as humans, we can never have it all fixed. Or have all our wishes granted. We are always hungry for more wealth, more knowledge, more or a better partner, you name it. We are greedy creatures.
Rakiya deserves our sympathy and prayers. Likewise, don't abuse the person – whomever he is – she adores that much. I am not sure if it's indeed her co-actor and singer, Hamisu Breaker. He, too, perhaps, wishes to love her back, but he may never be able to do so. Thus, instead of faking it, he stays strong to his heart. This is better for both. Being in a loveless partnership is excruciating.
Well, I have said enough on the topic, haven't I? I like it when Kannywood trends. People who pretend the film industry doesn't exist or doesn't deserve their attention soon become invested. Funny folks. :)
Thank you Dr. Muhsin, I have nothing against Hadiza or her journalism prowess or lack of nor do I have anything against her kannywoodness, also I have nothing against Rakiya but I think I have some understanding of her situation.ReplyDelete
The problem with love is that it can only be explained or understood by a person that has experienced it which fortunately or unfortunately it is not everyone that got to do that.
Her love for the guy is clearly unrequited but it is not unfounded as some people in the comment section of your Facebook post tend to allude, what she needs is only prayers because I believe it is an experience that she got to live with for the rest of her life
In my own opinion neither Hadiza/Rakiya should be blamed because Hadiza is trying to entertain the show and for Rakiya she try to ignore that part /question but Hadiza insisted so Rakiya have no choice, Rakiya should have make the answer shot but it's not that easy because it's a trauma she's suffering from its not that easy and for Hadiza should have just let go of that question, she should have sympathize with her because many people out there have Thier own views, even though she's trying to entertain the show and do not know Rakiya is suffering from things like thisReplyDelete
So my advice is for any journalist out there to please arrange Thier questions forward them to Thier Guess before the show